While cutting out the clutter that complicated my life, I stumbled onto a state of mind that has changed me. I had no idea releasing all that I did not need, was going to change me on a emotional and spiritual level.
Minimalism has strengthened my resolve and helped me to improve my life and in turn my relationship. It has allowed me to dump my narcissistic tendencies, and gave me the opportunity to look at my life from another perspective. I'm starting to see the world through my partners eyes, its a softer and more sensitive world. I'm starting to listen! and after our conversations, I'm thinking of how I would feel if I was feeling those feelings of insecurity that my partners experiencing. Instead of pushing the thoughts to the side and dismissing them as week, I'm trying to embrace them, I want to feel her pain so I can support her better.
Before I adopted the minimalistic approach to life, I was always to busy to stop and even try to understand the emotions my partner was trying to get me to understand. I saw time where I was just still as a waste of time. This made me miss everything I had right in front of me. A women who loves me and two health boys who have there own unique characters, who need their dad. All I saw was I need more money! I know someone who has a better house, or I just need to earn more money, so we can stay in the fancy hotels and post them on Facebook for everyone to see!
What was I thinking!
I have wasted my life chasing dreams of others, when I had everything of dreams right in front of me the whole time. I was just too selfish to listen to her express her concerns, which I saw as pure obstacles to me getting what I wanted. Instead of trying to understand her perspective and work towards a common goal, I shut her out and proclaimed that she was being difficult. I hid behind the statement "I don't understand what she was trying to say". In the end all she needed was me to stop and listen and think, she was not an obstacle she is the one holding the ladder. I was just to stubborn to see it.
Now I want for nothing I have an excess of material things as I'm still progressing towards minimalist perfection, but with every step I move closer to my desire minimalist lifestyle it makes me appreciate the things I chosen to keep.
My prized possessions are my wife and children! I know now that if I had nothing but them I would still be happy, and still feel like I have achieve success.
Life changing events happen to us all but only a few times, no matter how good or bad they are there is always a opportunity. For me my worst experience has lead to my best opportunity. Now I know I have never been interested in money but I have been searching for this state of mind. I thought being rich would bring me happiness/ contentment, it turns out its the complete opposite. The less I have the more I appreciate it, what I have now has greater meaning and value than the cost of the item itself.
After 12 years of being with the amazing women I call my wife, I now realise that what we have is beautiful but like everything in life it needs to be looked after now that my distractions are fewer my focus on my relationship is paying dividends, we are happier and working through our issues as we now have time and interest.
I guess what I'm trying to promote from this blog is that by choosing a minimalist life to whatever degree you need, it will change you! Money can bring you enjoyment but it does not bring happiness, I now have no spare money as I pay for my sins and I'm happier now then I have ever been.
Spend time with those you love, build meaningful connection with like minded people. Have a open mind and life will only get better.
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